Making disciples at home is a non-stop, always evolving process as you live with, teach, and discipline the kids God has placed in your life.
The single most important thing you can do as you journey through this process is to pray. Never underestimate the power of prayer as you discern how to disciple each individual child in your home.
Pray early. Begin praying not only early in the day, but early in the life of your child. Do not wait until there is a problem to begin praying for your child. Although it often is crisis that brings us to our knees in behalf of those we love, being “prayed up” will position you with armloads of ammunition when the enemy calls or trials present themselves.
In a TV interview, the mom of the first soldier killed in Iraq during Desert Storm, was asked how she was handling the separation from and ultimate loss of her son with such grace. She answered, “I just stay prayed up.” Depend on the fact that God knows each child in your home intimately well and holds in His hand all knowledge and wisdom for those kids. Best of all, He is willing, according to James 1:5, to generously share that wisdom with you. When Samson’s mom announced to Manoah that an angel sent from God told her she was going to have this baby, Manoah’s immediate prayerful response was this: "O Lord, I beg you, let the man of God you sent to us come again to teach us how to bring up the boy who is to be born." (Judges 13:8)
Pray for and with your kids. Tell them you are praying for them. Write prayers for them and give those to them. Ask them what they would like you to pray for then discuss the results. Let them hear you pray for them. While doing homework one day, my child asked, “Mom, have you prayed for me today? What did you pray for?” After responding, I offered to pray again right then for him. He grabbed my hand, told me what to pray for, and bowed his head – all in a matter of seconds.
Teach your kids to pray. In the beginning, their prayers will be very simple “please and thank you” kind of prayers. They may pray with their eyes open and in their own words. Even before they talk, your children can be learning to express gratitude to God for everyday things – their food, the grass, water, etc. – as you speak spontaneous sentence prayers for them. As they grow, make these kinds of prayers a part of your walking, talking, driving through the day. Slowly add “God, please help…” and “God, I love you. You are….” to the “thank you” prayers of your kids.
Also, teach them from the beginning to pray specifically. For example, when your children pray, “Thank you, God, for all you have made,” ask them to name some of the things God has made that they enjoy.
This, of course, can not be an exhaustive discussion on praying for and with your children. There are so many great books written on this topic. I highly recommend the following: Teaching Your Child How to Pray by Rick Osborne, Praying Circles Around Your Children by Mark Batterson, and The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie Ormartian.